A tribute to an older woman: remembering Sara

Sally - Julia Picture 2Twelve years ago, a rather free-spirited-homeschooling-hippie-preacher’s-wife moved into a totally new culture. She met a true southern woman—perhaps this description illustrates it: Flip flops meet ladies’ suits. In spite of their different lifestyles they found an affinity. They were both outspoken. They both loved to talk. They both loved their friends and families. They both loved Christ. This was more than enough!

As I remember my precious friend,  I realize that so much of what I loved about her was related to her actions and how they impacted me and those I love. As I interact with those around me, I hope I can always remember the things I learned from Sara’s example. She was dignified, but she was real and open. She was a southern lady, but she never made me feel out of place with my not-so-southern ways. She loved her family and her friends and she loved us. She encouraged us and supported us and built us up with her words and deeds. more »

Refresh my heart

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1 Corinthians 16:17–18 I rejoice at the coming of Stephanas and Fortunatus and Achaicus, because they have made up for your absence, for they refreshed my spirit as well as yours. Give recognition to such people.

Proverbs 27:9 Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.

Better to light a candle than to curse the darkness. ~Chinese Proverb

Encourage. Edify. Inspire. Refresh. Support. Uplift. Most human beings, whether they acknowledge it or not, are affected by various forms of encouragement. Several scientific studies have been done over the past few years that show how encouragement actually affects brain chemistry. For those who don’t give much weight to scientific studies (unless they happen to prove a personal conviction), in the very least, it’s generally agreed that discouragement is discouraging! Only a select few (and I’ve never met any) are absolutely unaffected by encouragement or discouragement.

Ecclesiastes 4:9–12 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

I have tried to encourage others and I have sought encouragement. I have been a babe in Christ craving encouragement and I have been a Christian of decades craving encouragement. I have been edified in my attempts to encourage and my attempts to seek encouragement and I have been rejected at my attempts to do both. I have repeatedly seen both the strong and the weak craving encouragement. One thing I know: encouragement is desperately needed by humans of all ages and stages! more »

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The family that kicks together

Sally - H and J kickThere are a lot of things that families can do together:  activities that stem from a common faith,  recreational activities, character building activities (With a homeschooling family together 24/7,  every day working together as a family is character building ;))! I’ve written about many aspects of our lives on my blog — mostly things that stem from my convictions about faith and family. Interestingly enough, two things that most of us are interested in have only been touched on here: nutrition and exercise!  If you follow us on social networking sites, you may have already had your fill of our thoughts on these two things. I’ll sum up the first one simply: eat real food! Seriously, we’ve changed some of our thoughts on nutrition over the years, often based on science and nutrition studies (and if you know that two of our girls are vegetarians, you know that we don’t all agree!). One thing we know for certain is this: if God made it, we are generally fans of eating it! That means that fruits and vegetables are definitely good picks! As for exercise: it’s a given — do it!

Various types of exercise have been studied in great depth and one thing is certain: the benefits of regular physical activity are vast! Those who exercise regularly experience energy boosts, mood balancing, disease prevention, weight control, and fun! Exercising regularly is absolutely, beyond a doubt, considered to be one key to good health (the others keys are healthy eating and a healthy outlook)! more »

What should I have asked for?

Sally - The Fisherman and his Wife

There is no end of craving. Hence contentment alone is the best way to happiness. Therefore, acquire contentment. ~Sivananada

He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have. ~Socrates

I have always loved fables, folklore and fairy tales! As a child, I repeatedly read Brothers’ Grimm and Hans Christian Anderson. When our older children were small, I spent countless hours reading beautifully illustrated versions of fables, folklore and fairy tales. In a tiny library in Wisconsin, some dear soul stocked the library full of them – a true treasure! I never tire of the countless lessons and examples found within the pages of good stories! One of the best things about these tales is that you can find them in all cultures in various forms. These stories are a wonderful supplement to studies in culture and geography! Still, the very best thing is how often we can learn profound lessons from simple tales. In that same library in Wisconsin, I came across a Russian version of a tale I loved as a child – The Fisherman and his Wife. Having been a wife and mother for almost a decade at the time (it was in the late 90’s), the story had an entirely different meaning for me. From that point on, I would remind myself often not to be a fishwife: always looking for more.

Husband,” said the woman, “didn’t you catch anything today?”

“No,” said the man. “I caught a flounder, but he told me that he was an enchanted prince, so I let him swim away.”

“Didn’t you ask for anything first?” said the woman.

“No,” said the man. “What should I have asked for?” more »

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Everyone else is already taken

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Surely every single social media participant has been inundated over the past few years by comments about the mommy wars. I can’t count how many different mommy war blog posts I’ve seen recommended over the past few months—no offense to mommy war bloggers—I basically see the same things stated repeatedly. Stop comparing. Be yourself. Live and let live. Honor and love one another. Rejoice in your talents. These are things we really ought to know anyway, frankly. Might I suggest that moms step out of the spotlight and consider the kiddie wars? Sometimes we really dislike behavior when it is directed at us, yet completely ignore it when it is directed at others!

The kiddie wars don’t seem to evoke nearly as much frustration on the interwebs. Yet, from the instant most children are born, the comparisons begin. In most cases from one minute after birth, children are scored on how well they tolerated the birthing process. Next, four minutes later, they are scored on how well they are handling life outside the womb. These APGAR scores begin a series of comparisons and tests that our children will face for their entire lives. In some cases, mothers submit to prenatal screening and diagnostic tests, and the scoring begins in the womb! more »

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While I’m waiting on my ‘mansion’— I’d love to have a hedge

I feel blessed to enjoy this time on earth, so I can honestly be patient while I live and love and wait for my ‘mansion’ (by this I do not mean the plantation kind, mind you, but the eternal dwelling with my Lord)!

Still, while I’m waiting, what I really want is that hedge that Satan accused God of putting around Job! You know what I mean? I want that protection, that constant security—I want to be untouchable!

Job 1:10 -10 Have you not put a hedge around him and his house and all that he has, on every side? You have blessed the work of his hands, and his possessions have increased in the land. more »

A mother’s love

Sally - Whitlock Family pmThe story of my motherhood didn’t actually begin 22 years ago when I was pregnant with our oldest son. It began in 1969, when I was placed in my mother’s arms. Looking back over the many years I’ve been a mother, I find that I’ve written a lot about the blessings of motherhood – especially when it comes to the six children that call me mom. I thank God every day for my husband and our six children – God blessed us with them and gave us a goal: to raise godly offspring for Him. For the past 22 years, this has been my hope and the deepest desire of my heart. I have learned lessons from our children—done what I did best and stepped outside of my comfort zone when I didn’t know what to do.

I have failed, tried again, and succeeded. I have used a voice dripping with poison and my most tender voice. I have wept in anger and compassion. I have prayed and I have rejoiced. Over and over again, I have understood the blessing of my own mother and been driven to honor her (and the God who blessed me with her) in my journey as a mother!

A few months ago, I had the opportunity to help my mother after her surgery. It was such a small thing when I remembered all the times she took care of me. Not many have a mother such as mine—a true servant with a willing heart always eager to put others before herself! As I cared for her, many of the things she did for me swam to the surface of my mind. Ironically, she even set herself up to recover in the bedroom I lived in for the first many years of our time in Florida (when I was about ten). As I tucked her into bed at night, helping my dad get her ready, I thought about her tucking me in every night and listening to my prayers in that very room. I remembered her rubbing my aching legs when I had growing pains. I remembered all the times she comforted me after nightmares. I remembered how she tried to help me overcome my deepest fears by facing them and understanding that I had the power to change even the scariest of dreams. I remembered her many acts of love. more »

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If you build it, they will come

Sally - Lord I believeAnd someone from the crowd answered him, “Teacher, I brought my son to you, for he has a spirit that makes him mute. And whenever it seizes him, it throws him down, and he foams and grinds his teeth and becomes rigid. So I asked your disciples to cast it out, and they were not able.” And he answered them, “O faithless generation, how long am I to be with you? How long am I to bear with you? Bring him to me.” And they brought the boy to him. And when the spirit saw him, immediately it convulsed the boy, and he fell on the ground and rolled about, foaming at the mouth. And Jesus asked his father, “How long has this been happening to him?” And he said, “From childhood. And it has often cast him into fire and into water, to destroy him. But if you can do anything, have compassion on us and help us.” And Jesus said to him, “ ‘If you can’! All things are possible for one who believes.” Immediately the father of the child cried out and said, “I believe; help my unbelief!” And when Jesus saw that a crowd came running together, he rebuked the unclean spirit, saying to it, “You mute and deaf spirit, I command you, come out of him and never enter him again.” And after crying out and convulsing him terribly, it came out, and the boy was like a corpse, so that most of them said, “He is dead.” But Jesus took him by the hand and lifted him up, and he arose. And when he had entered the house, his disciples asked him privately, “Why could we not cast it out?” And he said to them, “This kind cannot be driven out by anything but prayer.” ~ Mark 9:17-29

 And Jesus answered them, “Truly, I say to you, if you have faith and do not doubt, you will not only do what has been done to the fig tree, but even if you say to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ it will happen. And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.” ~ Matthew 21:21-22 

Few people are 100% optimist, 100% pessimist, 100% realist or 100% idealist or 100% fatalist. Most of us have a mix of isms—depending on the issues—sometimes it might be only a touch and certainly many may lean in the direction of one or another. Some people just can’t stand isms at all and that’s okay, too.

Indulge me. This will be important to know. I like to think of myself as a healthy mix of realism and idealism. I’m not an unhappy type so I’m really not a pessimist, but I am a cynic-of-sorts, so sometimes my viewpoint may appear pessimistic. Sometimes I even fight fatalism. I do appreciate optimism in its many forms, but I’m not naïve enough to be a die-hard optimist (translated as I’m not exactly Pollyanna). One of my favorite movie lines is, “The Ring passed to Isildur, who had this one chance to destroy evil forever, but the hearts of men are easily corrupted. And the ring of power has a will of its own.” More recently, I laughed and shook my head when a character said, “People will always do the stupid, selfish thing. Ten times out of ten.” Seriously, I want to believe better of people and I see people make good choices over and over and over. Still, I suppose I fight off hoping for the best and expecting the worst more often than I should. more »

Once again…Welcome to my house…

Sally - our homeDo you believe in hospitality? How much time do you spend opening your home to others? How often do you invite others to your home for meals or studies or simply to spend time building relationships? How do you feel when you are welcomed into someone’s home? Have you ever been invited into a home to eat a meal, pray, sing, or study?

  • There is an emanation from the heart in genuine hospitality which cannot be described, but is immediately felt and puts the stranger at once at his or her ease. ~ Washington Irving
  • There is no beautifier of complexion, or form, or behavior, like the wish to scatter joy and not pain around us. ‘Tis good to give a stranger a meal, or a night’s lodging. ‘Tis better to be hospitable to one’s good meaning and thought, and give courage to a companion.  We must be as courteous to a person as we are to a picture, which we are willing to give the advantage of a good light. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson more »

The beauty of intimate love in marriage: loving your husband

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Wives are created to be helpers to their husbands to fulfill God-given needs. This study is designed for wives, not husbands. This means that, while there are a great many things God says to husbands, the focus is on what we should do as wives, whether or not our husbands are fulfilling their parts. This is written for wives, and for those who hope some day to be wives! Obviously, the subject matter is mature, but I have made every attempt to be discreet and what follows is certainly appropriate for young ladies who understand that physical intimacy is a part of the marriage relationship!

My husband needs to feel that I desire him. Sometimes experience, circumstances, hormones or health issues might make intimacy challenging. I need to communicate to my husband that I am truly on fire for him, but that fire might need some extra help being kindled. Husbands and wives need to communicate effectively to kindle that fire and keep it burning! Lighting my fire for my husband isn’t optional, it is absolutely imperative. It is part of our relationship and must be nurtured. This is true for all wives. We need to see intimacy as a beautiful gift from God.

Seeing intimacy as God designed it will help us to love our husbands as we ought to love them and as they need to be loved. Sometimes loving one’s husband and nurturing the marriage relationship comes naturally and sometimes these things needs to be taught. If you need help loving your husband, seek wisdom from God’s word and from happily married wives!           more »

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