How big is your brave?

This is adapted from my ladies’ class with the same title. It is about equipping godly women with strength and courage. Dare I say, empower? It is rather long, I know, but it is meant to be a thorough and careful examination of a serious topic.

Recognizing someone else’s power does not diminish your own. ~ Joss Whedon

What this is and isn’t and a woman’s role in the church

Many months ago, I was approached by a young woman interested in studying attitudes toward women in the church. Interestingly, my four daughters and I have an ongoing dialogue about topics related to women. Knowing that others were also concerned encouraged me to begin an in-depth period of thought, prayer, observation, and study. more »

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Once more with thankfulness and an abundance of words…

Writing is a form of therapy; sometimes I wonder how all those, who do not write, compose, or paint can manage to escape the madness, the melancholia, the panic fear, which is inherent in a human condition~ Graham Greene

Over the past six months I’ve learned an abundance of lessons. One thing I know for certain is that, for me, writing and sharing are exceptionally therapeutic. Though knowing my words have meaning to others is encouraging, the writing itself—the words that come from my heart, the healing that happens in the sharing, the blessings in the lessons learned, the thankfulness expressed—is an exercise in coming to terms with the reality that in one moment my life changed forever. So, whether these five thousand words are buried in a blog post virtually unread or find a willing audience, they have been well worth the time it’s taken to me to write them. They are a mixture of even the smallest details of a huge struggle and my thoughts during and after the darkest days. more »

Never grow weary, there is hope…

Finally, brothers, pray for us, that the word of the Lord may speed ahead and be honored, as happened among you, and that we may be delivered from wicked and evil men. For not all have faith. But the Lord is faithful. He will establish you and guard you against the evil one. And we have confidence in the Lord about you, that you are doing and will do the things that we command. May the Lord direct your hearts to the love of God and to the steadfastness of Christ. ~ 2 Thessalonians 1-5

Jesus was tempted, Jesus grew weary…but His love for us was greater still. He followed the will of His Father, He made the choice for love and salvation for man. He did the hardest thing…He made the greatest sacrifice. He sacrificed himself while men sinned and forsook Him. He walked the road to the cross for the worst of us. He asks us only to follow Him. Sure, that’s not really an ‘only’—it’s a journey wrought with struggles, fears, and daily choices to stay on the path. Pray for faith for ourselves and intercede for others. He is faithful.  more »

Vents, rants, diatribes, and the musings of fools…

img_0787Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin. ~Proverbs 13:3

If the serpent bites before it is charmed, there is no advantage to the charmer. The words of a wise man’s mouth win him favor, but the lips of a fool consume him. The beginning of the words of his mouth is foolishness, and the end of his talk is evil madness. A fool multiplies words, though no man knows what is to be, who can tell him what will be after him? ~Ecclesiastes 10:11-14

Sharing makes us vulnerable, allows others to see deep into our hearts, and opens floodgates! Sharing can build bridges and burn them down. Sharing can be a stimulus for healing or a force of destruction! What do your words on social media say about you? more »

To tell His wondrous works. That’s why…

img_2897Why do I believe in telling my stories? I have always loved to tell the story of my salvation, from enjoying the sinful pleasures of the world to enjoying the pleasures and blessings of life as a follower of Christ. I have recently been blessed with another story, the story of my safekeeping, from a near fatal accident to complete healing. I have realized one common thing: both of these stories have a greater purpose in my life—they give glory to God. more »

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Things I wish for my son…



Today our oldest son turned 24. It’s almost time for him to leave and cleave. In just over a month, he will be married and moving out. He will be supporting a wife, leading a home, starting a family… I wrote this six years ago as he prepared to go away to college. I echo the sentiments today. Like most mothers, I made mistakes. I am so much more imperfect than so many who’ve gone before me. My weaknesses and failures are ever before me. Still, I know that I pour my heart and soul into my children daily. I have given all I’ve had to give…all I knew how to give…all I could do, I have done. These words from my heart are for him…this is my hope for him, more than a wish, a prayer.

Things I wish for my child as he becomes an adult… more »

First comes love…

imageIn the final analysis, the questions of why bad things happen to good people transmutes itself into some very different questions, no longer asking why something happened, but asking how we will respond, what we intend to do now that it happened.

― Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

In the summer of 1991 a young couple began to seek God together. They went shopping for a church that taught the bible. They found one that looked promising, filled out a visitor’s card, checked the box interested in a study, and began weekly studies with a young evangelist. During this time of study they began to see the truth ― about God’s word and about the lives they had been living. During this time the young woman found out that she was expecting. They knew what they needed to do. They made the decision to become disciples of Jesus Christ. They had their sins washed away. They began to turn their lives around. They decided to get married, assuring everyone that they most definitely wanted to spend their lives together. The young evangelist who had taught them and baptized them agreed to marry them. Their families supported them. The church rallied behind them. They were graciously welcomed. They were embraced. They were loved.

The young couple met life’s obstacles with optimism and joy for the journey ahead. That journey repeatedly proved God’s grace. The young man became an evangelist. The young couple moved around the country to preach. They raised a family with God as the solid foundation in their lives. They loved their family and sought to do God’s will and to teach others to do the same. The sins of the past were but lingering ghosts. Life was beautiful―’mingling toil with peace and love.’ The young couple never forgot where they came from and how God had blessed them on their journey.

You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.

―Mary Tyler Moore

Many years pass. Another young couple struggles. They are planning to marry. They aren’t making the best choices. They go to their parents just a few months before the wedding to tell them that the young woman is expecting. The parents know that far more important than how others might respond is how they will respond. Pain, shame, embarrassment, anger, worry, irritation―these are the worldly responses to a difficult situation. The parents know that there is need for admonishment and there is a need for grace. This is about three souls.

The parents know that they will forgive. They will guide. They will encourage. They will do whatever it takes to help the young couple make good choices―knowing that the foundation they build their lives upon will make all the difference in the world. They will embrace them and support them in whatever way they can. The parents remember where they came from and how greatly they were influenced by the love and acceptance shown to them. They know that, without the love and support they were freely offered, they might not be where they are today. They will pray and hope and wait. They will plant seeds and water them. They will not grow weary. They will lean on God and His family.

Trusting in my Father’s wise bestowment, I’ve no cause for worry or for fear.
He, whose heart is kind beyond all measure, Gives unto each day what He deems best,
Lovingly its part of pain and pleasure, Mingling toil with peace and rest.

―Lina Sandell.

Live, then, and be happy, beloved children of my heart, and never forget, that until the day God will deign to reveal the future to man, all human wisdom is contained in these two words, ‘Wait and Hope.”

― Alexandre Dumas

You can be amazing…


Motherhood is the biggest gamble in the world. It is the glorious life force. It’s huge and scary–it’s an act of infinite optimism.
~ Gilda Radner

Some might say my mother was ‘just a housewife’ … She was a faithful, supportive wife and mother for over 63 years. She supported my father through decades of service in the Army and the Sheriff’s Department. She loved, nurtured and guided five children through various interests and stages. She studied, she gardened, she served, she cared for family. She was never idle, always learning and ever encouraging.


She was never unfulfilled, discontent or weak minded. She built her life on her faith and lived accordingly.


There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one. ~ Jill Churchill

She never sought to raise modern women who abandoned the roles of wife and mother entirely, neither did she seek to raise automatons who thought small and lived within the confines of a preconceived ideal. She was an example of submission and service, yet she stood firm by her convictions and ideals. She encouraged me to reach for the stars. She believed in me. She wanted the best for me. She always sees the best in me. more »

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A line of gold thread

Sally - me and daddy

During the summer of 1969, a middle age man held his new born baby day in and day out knowing that he was leaving for Vietnam and understanding the very real possibility that he’d never see that baby grow up. He held that baby when she slept and cooed at her when she was awake. When she was six weeks old, he left for his tour of duty.

Thankfully, that father returned to his family safely. Even more wonderful than that, he was there to watch his five children grow up! That man has held my heart for the past 46 years! His love and devotion to his family have been a constant source of security in my life. I can honestly say, from my earliest memories, that I felt truly cherished. I have never once doubted that, no matter what happened, my daddy would take care of me.

There’s something like a line of gold thread running through a man’s words when he talks to his daughter, and gradually over the years it gets to be long enough for you to pick up in your hands and weave into a cloth that feels like love itself. ~John Gregory Brown more »

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One wrong bite…

Sally - julia and me

Sally - a mother's love

As I searched for quotes about protecting children from harm, I found a shocking number of absolutely hate-filled comments directed toward nut allergic children and their parents. The quote that I found most fitting after reading news articles and interviews was this:

The ugliest thing that I have ever seen is a human being without compassion. ~h. milne p.

I once wrote a blog post about protecting our children called: Better a thousand times careful than once dead. As I was pondering titles I couldn’t help but think that one was also fitting for this!

While all children need protection from maniacs (‘nuts’ if you will), there are many children who need the same diligent protection from certain kinds of ‘nuts.’ I am only qualified to write this as a mom of a child who suffers from an anaphylactic allergy. I am writing specifically about anaphylactic allergies and how our family and loved ones have handled this issue. Parents of children with deadly allergies are called a whole lot of ugly things! The general consensus of the masses is that we are bent on ruining everyone’s childhood, banning all the nuts, and demanding that the entire world revolve around our nut allergic child. We really ought to just remove them from society and ‘raise them in a bubble.’ How dare we insist on education and caution? more »

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