Proverbs 12:15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.
Last fall I was blessed with the opportunity to teach (and learn!) at a ladies’ retreat in Pennsylvania. One of my favorite times was spending a few hours with the whole group of women—divided up into younger woman and older women. A lovely friend and I were on the borderline of the suggested age between young and old (we are both mid-forties), so we opted to sit with the younger group before the entire group spoke together (not without a bit of teasing!). I learned so much about my role as an older woman by listening to these young women: hearing what was helpful, hearing what was hurtful, hearing what was needed, hearing what they desired most. One thing I know, just having been a young woman once doesn’t mean that I understand all the feelings other women face, we are all individuals and we can’t always know what others need unless we communicate openly. I can guess, I can teach, but unless I am asked or observe a clear need, I don’t always know what others need. No matter the situation, careful speech is critical. This should be a given. If you haven’t ever done a detailed study on the power of words, please consider reading through this blog post: Sweet to the soul and healthy to the bones.
2 Timothy 2:24-26 And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.
I know just what’s wrong with your baby was a comment spoken to a young mom, struggling to overcome some issues with her newborn. This young mom shared this in tears while trying to articulate why hearing it was so discouraging to her and how it could have been handled differently. She understood that the motive was to help, but also acknowledged that the comment wasn’t helpful. While that idea sparked my blog post, many things I’ve seen and heard since have prompted me to finally take the plunge. Present blog included, there is no shortage of advice on just about any topic you want to study. For every opinion and conclusion drawn on one blog, one might find another vehemently disagreeing and promoting an entirely different perspective. No matter how successful you deem your parenting, someone disagrees with you and sees you as a supreme failure. On the other hand, no matter how badly you may be parenting, you will find validation aplenty! Everyone has an opinion and is free to share it. Everyone else is free to rake them across the coals for holding it and sharing it. more »