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Ten lessons I’ve learned from my husband

Sally - Us sunglassesHave you ever noticed that a search on marriage quotes ends up with almost exclusively negative quotations? There are a lot of unhappy and discontent people out there in the world. Usually when I write about husbands and wives, how much I love my husband, the bliss of married life, or anything related to those topics, I receive at least a few responses that basically lean toward the idea that it is ‘easy’ for me because (you name whatever you think is more perfect about my life here). After 21.5 (since 1991) years of marriage, I can honestly say that I still believe in love and I am so utterly thankful for the blessing of our marriage.

I am convinced that our foundation in Christ is at the heart of our beautiful marriage. I believe that my husband is perfect for me and that if we’ve done one thing right in the past two decades it’s been how we’ve loved one another! I know when he looks at me that he is crazy about me and I am still weak at the knees over him. Yet, don’t mistake that for perfection. Don’t assume simplicity. Don’t imagine that marriage has to be perfect to be wonderful. We are two imperfect people, well aware of one another’s imperfections!

Let me tell you something that you may not know about us. While we love one another deeply and passionately, we don’t agree about everything. Yet, sometimes we vehemently disagree. When you take two people with strong convictions and throw in some controversial topics and 24/7 living together, you will rarely find complete agreement, but you can still find peace and harmony. You can still find love and happiness.

There really isn’t one part of our life together that’s the best part. It seems like everything is the best thing–the wonder of happy times, shared joy, the sacredness of intimacy, precious memories, the vision of our children overcoming the worst of us and blossoming in the best of us.

What about those struggles and disagreements? They are the best thing, too. They make us rich in life lessons. I am richer because of our disagreements because they are often when I learn the most! Some of them are lessons that we find in other places (i.e. God’s word), but they are lessons that I’ve required lots of good examples and help to *really* learn.

Here are some of the lessons I’ve learned from my husband:

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Lessons learned from my parents

Sally - 60March 14th 1953-March 14th, 2013

My parents, Don and Marianne Whitlock, celebrate their 60th anniversary on March 14th, 2013! They have lived in several states and overseas in Nuremburg, Germany. They have raised five children, of which I am number four. This week most of our family will gather together to celebrate this special anniversary. Together with many of their friends, all five of their children, all but a few of their seventeen grandchildren and their two great grandchildren, my parents will celebrate a lifetime together!

As I think about the blessings of sixty years, and all of the people they have had an impact on, I can’t help but rejoice in what they’ve given to me! Physical things – definitely – they provided anything I ever needed and almost everything I ever wanted and that was a lot! My father was the perfect example of a hard working father and husband. In their early years, he held down several jobs…finally joining the Army and beginning a military career. Decades later, he retired and began another career with the Hillsbourough County Sheriff's Department! My mother worked hard at home…always busy serving her family. She was always there for me. Always. There are two words I use often and, somehow, they will always remind me of my mother: wonderful and thankful.

So much could be said about sixty years, so much is theirs, but this is what I learned by being blessed to be one of their children, and what we've tried to teach our own six children…

  • Life is wonderful
  • Believe in God
  • Love unconditionally
  • Believe in goodness
  • Always be thankful
  • Children are a blessing
  • Motherhood is a full time job
  • Serving is an act of love
  • People are worth it
  • There are lessons everywhere
  • There is no excuse for boredom
  • Enjoy giving
  • Don’t fear
  • Don’t worry
  • Act, don’t react

God has blessed me with wonderful parents and I am so thankful! Life is beautiful indeed!

The often overlooked career choice

Sally - Career of motherhoodSeveral months ago, a mother posed a question about instilling the desire in young women to be keepers at home. With trepidation I publicly responded with our perspective–one I know is vastly different than most. The replies I received encouraged me greatly and I was delighted to know that many actually shared our thoughts and principles! I have adapted my original e-mail response to share with my readers at Carpediemmom.com. I know that believers and unbelievers alike appreciate the importance of mothers at home. However, if you do not believe that homemaking is a valid career choice, these ideas might be totally foreign to you.

If you have read much of my blog you will already know that I am fully convicted that my life as a homemaker (a wife, mother, and worker at home) is a full time career. Homemaking and mothering isn’t something that I fell into when I began having children. I fully believe that my place is at home and I made a conscientious career choice to be a homemaker.

With our convictions in mind, this is what we taught our four daughters:

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